Tuesday, February 22, 2011

I just had to say something

Recently on a website for moms in my area, there was an article discussing how many to children to have. I actually just deleted here what I was going to write and instead if you like I encourage you to read the original post/article and my response below and make your own opinion. I wrote the website's editors to ask them to post my response as an article instead of a comment, but they declined, so I just posted it as a comment.

This is in response also to "To Three or Not to Three"....
As a mother three young children (4, 2 and 1) and dreams of more children in the future, I am often told, “You sure have your hands full.” My response to them with a joyful and grateful smile is, “you should see my heart.”
I believe all children are a blessing from God, whether a single child or one of ten, whether the first born son, the baby girl, or the middle of the pack, each child is a gift.
“Behold, children are a gift of the Lord…
Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them”
– Psalm 127
And with each gift which God has given us to open and treasure every day, is a gift that brings joy and sorrow, excitement and frustration, and happiness and anger. But such is life (and a good one) to have all these various emotions in a single lifetime, even a single day. But can you imagine if life was so perfect and orderly that all we had was time to think about what more we wanted from life. One of the blessings in having children is that you have less time to shop for more things to fill up our homes but not our hearts, less time sit around and be idle, less time to think of what more we could do or what more we could have to make our life more "complete." The only thing that truly makes life complete is Life itself.
Being a parent is no easy job with great perks; it is a hard and often unappreciated labor, but it is mportant to remember that such a task is not assigned lightly by God.
"The most important person on earth is a mother. She cannot claim the honor of having built Notre Dame Cathedral. She need not. She has built something more magnificent than any cathedral-a dwelling for an immortal soul, the tiny perfection of her baby's body...Even the angels have not been given such a grace! What is more glorious than this-to be a mother."
- Joseph Cardinal Mindszenty
When I am walking to meet Saint Peter and review the deeds of my life, I will not be measured by how much I acquired but instead by how much I gave. One way God asks us to give is to give of ourselves as mothers. This is often hard as we have to give up so much, especially in those early years of motherhood. But like all things, this too shall pass and there will be a day when we wish we could turn back time. I see it in the eyes of elderly women, in their sweet voices as they see the true gift of joy I have in my children. They would give anything to still be nursing boo-boos with sweet kisses and guiding an unsure hand as it tries to write its first letters.
When thinking of how many children to have in our family, I believe this decision is best left to God, as I have heard there is no better way to make God laugh than to tell him your plans. I have been blessed with more than I need in house, food, and clothing (and really everyone in America is wealthy compared to the world at large), and what better way to use this surplus than to give it to a child. I would rather have more children at my feet than dollars in my pocket, as children have a value that can not be measured in any currency. A woman regarded by many to have one of the truest and biggest hearts of our time said it best…
"How can there be too many children? That's like saying there are too many flowers."
- Mother Teresa
We never question anything that is too beautiful, only things that seem to lack something. If you are even having the internal debate of how many children to have, maybe that thought is weighing heavily on your heart because there is something lacking in your life. You may not have that thought and that is fine. However, if you do, please consider that no dream vacation, dream car or all the luxuries one could imagine will be worth more when you look back on your life than the dream of a child.


Marla Grace said...


Jeannine said...

As a mother of three myself, and as part of a couple that leaves room for God to work in the area of family planning, I agree with you completely. The original post was so flippant and harsh, and your response was so loving and gentle.

Stacy @ Catholic Moms Helper said...

You have just written such a beautiful, loving testimony. I just finished a post on Sat.'s gospel reading--what is it--The Kingdom Belongs to the Children (Mk 10:13-16) How did Jesus see children? A blessing! In fact, when the disciples hindered the children is the only time in Scripture when Jesus is said to be "indignant"! Thank you for blessing me today! I'm adding a link to your post to mine. :)

Elizabeth said...

I just happened upon your blog. What a beautiful post and I completely agree. So many people refuse to see the truth of what life is all about...LIFE and life-giving love. I am the mother of a 1 and 3 year old and I pray the Lord blesses our family with as many children as He sees fit.

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